ANXIETY & STRESS
Anxiety, Depression, Grief / Loss, Panic Attacks, Phobias, Self-harming, Stress / Tension
Changes of any sort can create stress, whether that change is welcome, such as moving house, taking a holiday or starting a family, or unwelcome, such as redundancy, divorce or illness. Some of us adapt well to change, while others feel apprehensive at best, and panic stricken at worst. In the fast-paced world of the 21st century, change is inevitable, so it is little wonder that we are often reluctant to let go of the past, that familiar source of comfort.
The Past and Negativity
Yet holding on to the past also reinforces negatively conditioned minds. When faced with a difficult or unknown situation, our minds search for an appropriate response, so we run the risk of developing further negative behaviour. And while it is natural to recall negative experiences in order to avoid repeating them, we also have much to gain from recalling the positive ones.
However, the subconscious mind is rather like a computer; it is capable of performing many thousands of functions, but unable to think or devise different responses. When problems occur, it needs to be reprogrammed. By accessing the subconscious mind, beneficial changes can be introduced, negative beliefs can be updated and undesirable responses can be replaced with more appropriate behaviour.
Benefits of Relaxation
This is easily achievable in a state of total relaxation. Learning to relax is a skill we would all do well to develop, for it gives our bodies and minds the opportunity to recharge energy levels and recover from excessive demands, stimulating healing at physical, mental and emotional levels.
So whatever the specific problem, relieving stress helps you to take control. Unburdening yourself and clearing away the after-effects of past disturbing events, enables you to make space for the future you desire, and to access a more positive and healthier approach to life.
NOTE: Many physical symptoms & conditions are stress-related
– see ‘Other Issues‘ for these.
Assertiveness, Blushing, Effective Speaking, Low Motivation &
Self-Esteem, Problem Solving & Decision making, Self-Confidence,
Self-Image, Studying & Exams, Stuttering / Stammering
Your First Step
If you know you lack confidence then you’ve already taken the first step. Acknowledging that a problem exists, even if only to yourself, gives you the opportunity to seek a solution, and by reading this, you may have already discovered the right solution for you.
Even the most professional people admit to being nervous before addressing an audience, whether that is one person or thousands. Feeling nervous is normal because it helps to focus your mind on the task to be done. However, if your nerves get the better of you, perhaps to the extent that you cannot complete or even begin the task, at this point hypnotherapy can make all the difference.
The Fear Factor
Fear is a negatively conditioned response and it feeds itself. What may have begun as a little nervousness can soon escalate into sheer terror, and your mind will recall the worst situations to help prevent these from happening to you in the future. The fear factor is there for your protection, and in certain cases this is perfectly understandable. Someone who has had a bad experience around water may fear being immersed in water, but if the same person wishes to learn how to swim, then acquiring this ability could help to overcome the original fear.
Establishing harmony between the subconscious and conscious levels of mind, as well as authority of the conscious mind to dictate appropriate responses, enables reprogramming. Your rational mind can only be effective if your subconscious mind has erased the learned behaviour in favour of a better response being installed.
So if you would like to have confidence in yourself and get rid of outdated and unwanted feelings and responses, it makes sense to use hypnotherapy. This way you can be ‘single-minded’ about the future, replacing fear with confidence, discord with harmony and enjoying life to the full.
ADDICTIONS, HABITS & NEUROSES
Dependency on alcohol, tobacco, & certain other drugs, Gambling,
Nail Biting, Obsessive Behaviour, Trichotillomania (hair pulling), etc.
Addictions come in many forms, but when is an addiction truly a problem? People may state they are ‘addicted’ to watching football, eating chocolate or surfing the internet, but are these pursuits really addictions?
The answer lies with the person performing the action and perhaps their immediate family, friends or colleagues. As long as the habit isn’t causing secondary issues like financial problems, social exclusion, arguments, weight gain, or other health problems then it is probably just a matter of preference for all concerned.
Help is at Hand
However, some habits can cause serious problems that create feelings of helplessness, and you may feel enslaved by the habit that you once chose to perform. People who smoke or gamble compulsively, or drink excessive quantities of alcohol, or are dependent on certain drugs (including prescription drugs) may be aware of their dependency, but unable to change the compulsion. Even people who bite their nails, pull out their hair, or pick at often imaginary blemishes on their skin may not even realise they are doing it. This means the behaviour has passed beyond the rational conscious mind and become a subconscious function.
Updating your Subconscious Mind
The subconscious mind is irrational. It cannot reason or figure out solutions for itself. It is rather like a software program on a computer. In order to get results, it needs to be given instructions. Sometimes the old program may even need deleting, and a more appropriate one installed. This is where hypnotherapy can help you to achieve the changes you want, easily, quickly and permanently.
So if you feel that a habit no longer serves your best interest, it is your subconscious level of mind that needs to know and accept this. Perhaps you started smoking because it made you feel ‘grown up’? This might be desirable when you’re 14 years old, but just how old do you have to be before your subconscious mind accepts that you are now ‘grown up’? Or associating alcohol with having a good time may have falsely led you to pursue those good time feelings by drinking, but on your own with nothing but a bottle and your thoughts for company.
Do Something Different
While we may hate giving up something that brings us pleasure, with hypnotherapy your mind is reprogrammed to no longer accept the undesirable habit as pleasurable, so you needn’t even feel that you’re denying yourself a treat.
So if you would like to take back control bear this in mind: if you always do what you always did, then you’ll always get what you always got. Isn’t it about time you did something different for a change?
Anorexia, Bulimia, Dietary Choices, Gagging, Loss of appetite, Portion Control, Weight Control
What Are You Waiting For?
So you’ve tried diets. You’ve tried pills and potions. You joined a club, take more exercise and go out of your way to avoid temptation. And still, no matter how much weight you manage to lose, you always seem to find it again. Well you would, until you discover why you ‘needed’ it in the first place. There’s a reason for all behaviour, and identifying the reason helps unlock the door to achieving your limitless potential.
A Weight OFF Your Mind
Your conscious desire to shed excess weight has but one enemy, and you’ll be happy to know it isn’t even edible! It is, in fact, your subconscious mind, because the subconscious urge invariably wins.
Those of us who failed to ‘eat our greens’ as children, and were denied ‘pudding’ as a consequence, tend to be the ones who scoff sticky toffee pudding like it’s going out of fashion. The days of being sent to bed with no supper were a recipe for overeating in later life. Even lines like: ‘Children are starving in the world; eat it up’ take their psychological toll.
Eating is a necessary part of life and can be most enjoyable, but in the modern world we often neglect our most fundamental needs. Meals are hurried affairs, irregular eating patterns are commonplace, and fast food with little nutritional value becomes the norm. But you can improve your diet without even noticing it, by altering some basic attitudes to what, where, how and when you eat.
Yet with all the will in the world, intentions often fail because we are consciously making an effort to stick to them. If you need to remind yourself to do something, sooner or later you will forget. How much easier it is to reprogram your behaviour, and let the new program govern the way you wish to think, feel, eat and behave.
You Are What You THINK
Altering your perception helps you to achieve your desired figure much sooner. If you regard your image as grossly overweight, shapeless and ungainly, you are creating further obstacles. Repulsion defeats us, whereas desire encourages us.
Hunger signals are sent from a small sensor in the brain called the hypothalamus, to let you know that it is time to eat. About 20 minutes later, regardless of whether or not you responded, it sends another message to confirm that it is satisfied, and the feelings associated with hunger subside. Consider now how many times you have felt hungry, and although you had nothing to eat, those hunger pangs just went away. It is not how much you eat during that 20 minutes that will satisfy those hunger pangs, for the exact same message of satisfaction is sent regardless of how much you ate, if anything, during this time.
Eating for Life
A healthy balanced diet is much more than a way of attaining your ideal weight. It is a reward to yourself and you will soon notice the benefits. Greater energy, more enthusiasm, increased self-confidence and better health are just some of the ways that your decision to look after your body will reward you. So why wait to treat yourself to the figure you desire?
NOTE: Many weight problems / eating disorders are stress-related
– see also ‘Anxiety and Stress‘.
FERTILITY, PREGNANCY & CHILDBIRTH
Planning a Family
For some people, family planning begins with the confirmation of conception, but for others this event is a long-awaited dream. Endless appointments and investigations may have already proved inconclusive and the medical practitioners are still unsure what the problem is.
How unfortunate that more attention isn’t paid to psychological barriers which could be inhibiting the most natural process: conception.
Sylvia has worked with clients before who have been told categorically that the only way they might conceive is through IVF. Suggestions about fostering or adoption have even been made, or occasionally those people so desperate to have a family of their own have been looking at surrogacy. Drastic measures perhaps, but when your biological clock keeps ticking, you’ll grasp any straw within reach.
Except your mind’s straw. It may sound remarkable, but the mind could be the root of all your problems. Fix that, and you could be a parent much sooner than you thought.
Nine Months of Expectation
Pregnancy is another matter entirely. Whether or not conceiving was straightforward, the amount of information out there is enough to fuel anyone’s worries, and all the ‘What ifs..?’ can take their toll.
Thoughts become things. This universal law of attraction has been recognised by the medical profession around the world. If you entertain negative thoughts to the exclusion of all else, then negative results are far more likely to occur. Your level of stress increases and physical, biological changes can manifest in many ways. During pregnancy, these manifestations can also affect your baby’s development in the womb.
From a baby’s viewpoint, the womb should be a place of calmness and comfort, so as a mum-to-be you need to convey such feelings by remaining calm and confident as much as you can. Simply introducing frequent moments of relaxation, during which time you focus on positive thoughts, may seem pointless to you now, but not to a developing baby. Remember ‘thoughts become things’ because the feelings that flow throughout your entire body during such moments of meditation will carry a biologically positive message to your child.
Sylvia has heard back from parents who bought a copy of the same background music she used during hypnotherapy sessions prior to the birth. The wonderful feelings of relaxation associated with such music helped to calm the infant, such is the power of perception.
So whatever stage you’re at, be that planning to start a family, overcoming difficulties in conceiving, or dealing with stress during pregnancy, with hypnotherapy you could soon be expecting positive results at all stages.
Allergies, Anger Management, Asthma, Bedwetting (enuresis), Blood Pressure / Circulation, Bruxism (teeth-grinding), Cancer Relief, Chronic Fatigue Syndrome (ME), Concentration & Memory, Frigidity, Hay Fever, IBS, Immune System Problems, Impotence, Insomnia, Menopause, Migraine, Pain Relief, PMT, Relationships & Trust, Skin Problems, Sports Performance, Tinnitus
How could hypnotherapy help me?
It’s a fair question, but the answer is another question. What would you like to change?
Most of us have something we would prefer to change. It could be a bad habit such as smoking, nail biting or eating to excess, a phobia or an allergic response. Perhaps stress causes you physical symptoms, like insomnia, short temper, dermatitis, IBS or migraine? Maybe you lack confidence or your memory lets you down? Interviews or exams could send you into a blind panic. Or perhaps you have a talent you wish to develop? The list seems inexhaustible.
Most people put up with limiting behaviour, with conditioned responses often instilled since childhood, simply because they know of no alternatives. But there’s a reason for all behaviour, and identifying the reason helps unlock the door to limitless new possibilities. With hypnotherapy, realising your potential could happen much sooner than you think.
So how does hypnotherapy work?
Hypnotherapy utilises the greatest power that we all possess: our power of perception. If we expect to fail, we usually prove ourselves right. If we expect to greet Monday morning feeling gloomy, we usually will. If we imagine our greatest fears coming true… well, you begin to get the picture. Whatever we imagine tends to be realised, so why not let your imagination work FOR you for a change?
Our conscious, critical, linear-thinking mind rationalises. It uses experience and learned responses to dictate how we should respond in future. These lessons are filed away in the subconscious mind, to be acted upon automatically should the need ever arise.
Unfortunately, some lessons which are filed away are somewhat misleading. A child who has a bad experience with a dog may grow up believing that ALL dogs are dangerous. The subconscious mind desires to protect and preserve life, and believes it is acting in our best interests. Only when we consciously identify a false or outdated interpretation, can we then attempt to change the response.
What if part of me wants to change, but part of me doesn’t?
The decision to change is taken at a conscious level. You may decide to stop smoking because you understand how harmful it is to your health. However, until this decision is conveyed to and accepted by the subconscious mind, you are ‘in two minds’ about stopping, and the subconscious urge invariably wins. Accessing the subconscious mind is essential if the behaviour is to be changed permanently.
Hypnotherapy helps by applying your conscious desires at a subconscious level. It is rather like establishing order between management and the workforce. The hypnotherapist is acting like a union representative, conveying the wishes of both sides and finding a way forward that is acceptable to all. One thing is certain; your subconscious mind is always working for your benefit, but sometimes it lacks the necessary information. Once this information is understood and accepted, the changes you desire at a conscious level will be implemented easily, without fuss.
Occasionally deep-rooted complications may arise. Just as in a workforce, there may be other problems related to the identified one. For example, a client may have a phobia such as a fear of rodents. Under hypnosis it may come to light that the fear began when, as a child, the client was abused, and in order to escape the immediate surroundings, the child had focussed intently on a pet hamster or gerbil in its cage. The feelings were then transferred onto the pet, later to become a phobia.
No matter what happens during a hypnotherapy session, rest assured that your hypnotherapist is qualified and experienced to deal with any ‘curve balls’ that might arise. Creativity is a key component of any hypnotherapy session, and as a published author of fiction, Sylvia is no stranger to being creative.
Gathering personal information about you prior to hypnotherapy is essential. The techniques employed may be the same, but it’s the individual touch which makes for successful therapy. A restful scene to one person could be a frightful scene to another, and some people may follow technology, while others are hopelessly lost. This is why sessions are tailored to suit every individual, wherein lies the key to successful hypnotherapy.
If your particular problem is not listed here, please contact me or call in confidence to discuss your needs.